How to Spot Signs of Holiday Depression in Older Adults

The holiday season is often filled with joy, tradition, and togetherness—but for many older adults, it can be an emotional and isolating time. Changes in family dynamics, grief over loved ones who have passed, health issues, or simply feeling left out of holiday activities can contribute to seasonal depression.

As family members, caregivers, friends, and neighbors, understanding the warning signs can help us step in early and offer support, compassion, and connection.

Here’s what to look for—and how you can help.

1. Changes in Social Engagement

If a normally social senior becomes withdrawn or uninterested in connecting with others, it’s a red flag. Common signs include:

• Avoiding calls or visits

• Declining invitations

• Showing little interest in social activities they usually enjoy

Holiday depression often begins with quiet withdrawal.

2. Noticeable Shifts in Mood

Emotional changes are some of the clearest indicators. Watch for:

• Increased sadness or tearfulness

• Irritability

• Hopelessness

• A loss of enthusiasm about the holidays

Even mild but persistent mood changes shouldn’t be ignored.

3. Changes in Sleep Patterns

Sleep disruptions can be signs of emotional distress. You might notice:

• Sleeping much more than usual

• Trouble falling or staying asleep

• Restless nighttime behavior

These shifts often appear during the holidays, when routines change.

4. Changes in Appetite

Holiday depression may lead to noticeable eating differences. Look for:

• Decreased appetite or skipping meals

• Sudden cravings or overeating

• Weight loss or gain

Appetite changes can be emotional, not just physical.

5. Loss of Interest in Holiday Traditions

If a senior stops participating in traditions they usually love, it may signal deeper emotional pain. Examples:

• Not wanting to decorate

• Disinterest in music, movies, or holiday foods

• Avoiding family gatherings

This often stems from grief, loneliness, or feeling disconnected.

6. Physical Complaints Without a Clear Cause

Emotional distress sometimes shows up physically. Common signs:

• Increased aches and pains

• Fatigue

• Digestive issues

• Headaches

These symptoms may worsen with stress or sadness.

7. Expressing Loneliness or Grief

The holidays can intensify feelings of loss. A senior may say things like:

• “It’s just not the same anymore.”

• “Everyone is gone.”

• “I feel like a burden.”

Take these statements seriously.

How You Can Help

Small acts of connection can make a major difference. Try:

• Calling regularly

• Including them in simple holiday activities

• Dropping off a meal or treat

• Asking about their favorite traditions

• Visiting, even briefly

• Encouraging them to join community programs

Programs like MyFriend’s Friends of the Family offer companionship, social interaction, and emotional support—especially during the holidays, when seniors need connection most.

If depression seems severe or persistent, encourage a conversation with a healthcare provider.

Final Thoughts

Holiday depression in older adults is more common than many realize, but the signs are often subtle. By staying attentive, compassionate, and proactive, you can help a senior in your life feel seen, supported, and connected during a season that can otherwise feel heavy.

Your care truly makes a difference.